As I was sitting alone having lunch in a favorite diner, I heard 4 women at the table next to me talking. The subject of their lively conversation was a woman not in attendance. They were voicing their frustrations and pet peeves about their missing friend. Each of them, in turn, explained her complaint and justification. Although I didn’t know the ladies present or the lady who was the topic of discussion, my heart ached a little for her. She was being criticized and judged without being present to defend herself. 

This scene caused me to wonder. Am I the topic of irritated conversations by others? Worse yet, am I guilty of the same behavior as these women? How many times have I voiced my opinion about someone not present? As I ate my lunch, I was ashamed to realize my answer was yes. I am guilty. I’m curious why we are eager to point out each others faults. Does it boost our egos? Does it consciously or unconsciously make us appear more worthy in the opinion of others?

Then I started thinking about the relationship between Jesus and Judas. Judas was chosen by Jesus to be one of his 12 apostles. He was one of his closest friends. In the end, Judas betrays Jesus. Yet what astounds me is not the fact that Jesus knew this would happen when he chose Judas, but that He still called him friend. Jesus never publicly admonished Judas. He only gave him compassion and love.

I need to follow Jesus’ example. I need to focus on the virtues of others. When my pet peeves still irritate me, I don’t need to add fuel to the spark by complaining but instead offer understanding and forgiveness to cool the heat. 

I’m asking you to join me in an activity this week. Each day, reach out to 3 people and compliment them. Point out their qualities you admire and express your gratitude. If we focus on others virtues, we will feel more peaceful and our love will spread.

“Therefore encourage one another and build each other up…” 1 Thessalonians 5:11 (NIV)

“Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.” Proverbs 16:24 (NIV)

“You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.” Matthew 7:5 (ESV)

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